I'm CandiAnne, a Leather person and BDSM Lifestyle Educator.
History:
I'm originally from Northern California, right next to San Francisco. For those of you that enjoyed the TV show M*A*S*H, you've heard the name of my hometown many a time from B.J. Hunnicutt as it was his hometown as well :) Being from this area kink and more were easy to come by. I found an amazing man to take me under wing and teach me from the ground up. I learned what each implement I use feels like and how to use it properly. The fact that it's not just about the wielding of the toys but the trust between the two playing in that particular scene and most important, how to deserve another's submission and treat them with the respect they deserve for giving up all that they are to belong to a Dominant. Due to my youth and being raised very strict I had to keep this piece of me hidden and do it behind closed door away from anyone I might know for a fair number of years. It wasn't until 1999 when I left NorCal and moved to Colorado that I was truly able to bounce out of the Leather closet and have a jolly ole time. In 2011 upon winning the title of Ms. Beyond Leather it was time to let my family know and I've never looked back. I had only one Facebook page so friends and family often got more than they bargained for. LOL!! I've been in this life since 1986 and I will be doing this all the days of my life.
Beliefs and Who I Am:
My core values ~ integrity, honesty, honor, respect, service, community with a lil rebel thrown in.
The thing about these values is I expect them from others, if someone doesn't show intergrity and isn't honest, respectful and honorable I'll cut them off in a heartbeat and never look back. I don't have time for games and drama and if, by the time, someone is an adult they don't have these qualities at the forefront of who they are then they never will.
Integrity means everything to me. I am who I am and I do my best to improve daily. No one is perfect but that doesn't mean we can't attempt to be better people. My word is my bond, if I say I will do something I do.
Above all I am honest to the core. So much so that I am excessively blunt and have no filters. Should I hurt someone's feelings with my honesty, while it's a sad situation, I do not apologize because I told them the truth and that's what matters to me.
I appreciate the time that has been spent teaching me over the years and I share every bit of the knowledge that has been passed down. Those who have taken the time to share with me have my utmost respect and gratitude. I honor the following two men with every fiber of my being.
My original trainer/Master, Edward, passed on in the late 80s due to the AIDS Crisis but the way he taught me is the same way I teach today. Until it's been done to you, you haven't the right to do it to another. How can you possibly flog someone when you have no idea how it feels and/or what it does to the psyche? How can you send someone to subspace if you aren't willing to take that journey yourself? Granted there are those that for reasons out of their control can't be flogged, paddled, whatnot and that is understandable but they can still take the time to speak with Dominants who've done it as well as submissives in order to better understand.
Master Trent was my mentor for many years. I constantly and consistently looked to him for his thoughts, points of view and knowledge. He was always an amazing resource. After taking a step out of the public scene for a while due to my partner's career and lack of understanding my life, it was the passion in Master Trent's eyes during a workshop I attended that reminded me how much this life means to me and that gave me the drive to return full force and kick myself in the ass for ever having stepped back.
I also pay close attention to the lessons taught by those who came before me such as Guy Baldwin, Jay Wiseman, Jack Rinella, Gayle Rubin, Pat Califia, Hardy Haberman and one who is dear to my heart, Caro Ryer, amongst others. Their teachings are important pieces of our history that should never go to the wayside. Thank goodness with the chronicling of the Leather Archives & Museum teachings of the past can live on for generations of Leatherfolk to come.
Service and Community come from the heart or they're just actions that one hopes gets noticed by others. I will help someone in need, whether or not I like the person means little to me, if they are truly in need of assistance I will do my best to come through for them. My service is often in the background by attending fundraisers for larger charities, giving to places like the USO, volunteering with various organizations. Being noticed isn't what matters it's knowing within me that I did a little here and there to help. It's how it makes me feel that matters. One of my favorite charities though is Leather Archives & Museum.
Strengthening my community and trying to get it into a friendlier light is important to me. This is done through education and discussion with the outside world. I'm out to family and friends and one by one they'll talk to others. I know some already have. Strength also comes from within by educating the community itself and that's done by educators and the classes we teach.
Present Memberships:
National Leather Association - International (NLA-I)(President 2015-2018)(Wisdom Keeper 2018-2020) (Awards Chair 2015-2020)
Voodoo Leatherworks (lifetime member and past web designer)
Past:
Denver Sanctuary
Celebration of Power
NCSF (National Coalition for Sexual Freedom)
Leather Archives & Museum
Women In Leather - International (Treasurer)
Ms. Beyond Leather 2011
Member of Uncommon Ground
Member of Rocky Mountain Power Exchange
Member of Labyrinth
Member of Colorado Spankos
National Leather Association - Northern Nevada Chapter (NLA-NNV)(Education Chair and Chapter Rep to Int'l)
National Leather Association - Colorado Chapter (NLA-CO)
(Newsletter Editor)
WICK'D (Women In Control of Kink and Domination - Colorado)